Younger Clear Self

Younger Clear Self

Learning self-protection?

When i was young i used to go to a Karate school. i was there for 2 years but the coach was too soft on us and i can't remember a thing. he didnt teach us about speed and every kick of mine was very lousy, so i started questioning the utylity of Karate. every time he asked us to hit him, i would be like boxing, punches and low kicks and everything..
Bottom point: I want to learn a martial art, that helps you get that great skill of fighting, just allowing you to grab someone's hand and put him down fast, without any unnecesary blood shef.
I want a martial art that would make me understand more about a culture,and clear my mind of anything else. A martial art that would teach me how to stand pain, and forget about it. Any good ideas?
i'm not gonna be able to take my kendo sword and armour with me everywhere:)) an empty hand(which actually is the meaning of Karate..yeah i'm just being smart) would be more usefull to me.

It's hard to know exactly what you mean. A lot of martial arts teach a lot of what you stated, especially in pain tolerance. I can understand however, that you are looking for a grappling martial art rather than a striking art. Out of the ones I know, these are the ones i know to be grappling orientated:
Aikido
Taijiquan
Judo
Jujutsu

Really what I think you should do is use the yellow pages or yell.com to find out your local martial art centres and then visit each one and find out for yourself whether their martial art fits what you are looking for.

A couple of things that are important parts to look at in the process of choosing a school:
The environment where you'll learn and train
The people that will be your partners
The instructor
The logistics of the school

(a) The environment where you will learn and train

Don't get impressed by the size of the place - just be sure that you feel "ok" in there.

Also don't necessarily be impressed by huge number of trophies. They may indicate a very successful competitive school (if that is an aspect you are interested in) or they could be all show. Check carefully.

If you are not allowed to watch any classes, you may not want to invest your time and money. Without seeing a class you will not be able to get a good feel for the school.

Ask questions - don't worry about looking stupid or asking the "wrong" question. They are going to be teaching and training you- you want to get any concerns or considerations you have out before you commit to anything. Look here on questions to ask:

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If you feel bullied or threatened in any manner, look somewhere else.

(b) The people that will be your partners

Go, watch some classes (without participating), then ask to participate- see if the behavior of the students changes by the fact that there is a new person in their class.

What follows is a quick and dirty check list, to which you can add your own points, based on what you consider important. Remember: these questions and suggestions are just guidelines, not hard and fast rules. There will always be exceptions. But if you look in these domains you will have a solid ground to choose from.

How good are the students?

This is more of a measure of the quality of the students as students than their skill at martial arts. See if you can picture yourself with these people. Are they attentive, respectful, interested in being there? Those are all good signs...

Is there a mix of upper and lower ranks?

This is not always obvious in the styles without belt rankings, etc. It is generally a good sign if advanced, intermediate and beginning students are practicing together. Check the approach the higher ranked students take to you- their help will probably be very important in your advancement in the Art you choose.

Some schools have classes separated by rank though. Ask.

Is there a mix in the type of people in the class?

Although this doesn't necessarily mean anything if it is not present, it is a good sign if there is a mixture of males and females, older and younger people in the class. It is a pointer to the efficiency of the Art if it can teach a wide variety of people together.

Do they move the way you would like to?

This will give you some sense of what you can achieve. Look to the senior students and see if they move the way you want to move.

Do they help one another?

In a small class this may not apply, but in larger classes it is a good sign if the senior students support and assist the junior students. This kind of personal attention will aid you greatly in your training.

Do the senior students seem fit and relaxed?

This will give you a sense of the atmosphere of the school. If the senior students are uptight, nervous, unfit, out of shape, or unhappy, it may be a sign to move on. However, do not be put off by a single occurrence, i.e. because on THAT day the senior student was in a poor mood. It should at least prompt you to look carefully though...

How common are injuries?

As most martial arts involve vigorous physical activity and contact, injuries will occasionally occur. However, if injuries are common and/or serious, there is likely a problem in how training is supervised, and you will probably want to look elsewhere. It will be difficult to tell what the frequency/severity of injuries in the class is in one or two visits. Ask the instructor.

(c) The Instructor

You'll need some basic trust in the individual, as a beginning.

The instructor is the person who is going to be guiding your development as a martial artist. You need to feel comfortable with him or her, and feel secure in receiving instruction from them. If you have some unease or personality conflict with the instructor(s) you might want to look elsewhere.

Do the students get personalized attention?

This will be a good judge of how valuable your time will be. If there is a good amount of instructor to student attention there will be more value for you.

Does the instructor differentiate between forms and function?

Another good indication is to find out if the instructor(s) differentiates between form and function. In other words do they do it "because it looks good" or "because it works." This may not apply if you are looking for a martial art as a performance art or as an exercise (though then you want to look at the efficacy of their exercises...)

Does the instructor(s) differentiate between tournament and self-defense?

As above, your reaction to this question's answer will depend on what your goals are. However, there is general agreement that tournament training and self-defense training, while highly related, are different. If the instructor does not differentiate the two - that may be a danger sign!

Violence in the class

If you see an instructor hitting students, or a senior student hitting students, be very clear that it was appropriate before you consider that school. Though be aware - if you are unfamiliar with the art, medium or full contact sparring may seem overly violent to you. Violence as discipline is to be avoided.

Are adjustments made for students of differing body types and limitations?

Another good sign is if the instructor adjusts the training of his or her student's physical realities: telling a slow person to work contact, a fast person to work ranges, a heavy person to work leverage, a light person to work speed, or, conversely, concentrating on their weak areas to compensate.

(d) The logistics of the School

Money

This is an important element to be clear about. You don't want to commit to a school if you can't afford it. It is impossible to address what a reasonable price would be here, because the benefits offered, the local economy, the quality of instruction, and the amount of instructor time are all variables in the equation. The best way to determine if a school is being reasonable is to compare what they offer for their prices.

Find out if there are extra charges for going up in rank, find out if there are organizational dues, tournament fees, mat fees, etc.

But do not be upset when a Martial Arts instructor charges money- they need to eat and have a place to stay. In our culture money is the way that happens. We do not feed and house wise old men, and unfortunately the costs of a school, equipment, and insurance are frighteningly high.

Location

If you are intending to spend a lot of time at the school you want it to be accessible, and convenient enough for you to get their after work, on weekends, etc.

Classes

Another thing you want to be clear on is when you can go to the school and when classes are. Some schools are open almost all the time and have lots of classes. In some schools you can only come when an official class is being held. An open school is usually better for obvious reasons- convenience, practice time, access to mats, etc.

Commitments and Promises

This is an important thing to know about any school you will be joining. Be very clear on what they will expect of you and what you expect of them. Some teachers want to teach only people who are willing to commit to them and their style, some are willing to introduce you to their style and let you dabble, some will teach you as long as you show up. None of these are intrinsically better or worse, but you want to know where they are coming from so you and they are not surprised.

Find out if you are required to attend classes, find out about being late, find out what the policy is on school rules of behavior and etiquette. Find out how you are supposed to interact with the teacher and other students. There are many styles for all these things so make sure you find out. The easiest way is to ask these questions.

There may be other questions you want to look at and specific questions you have about an instructor, school, organization, or style you are looking at. Know the questions you want answered and you will find the perfect school for you!

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When I returned from my trip alone to Europe, a seasoned wiser woman, I didn’t know what I was going to do with myself. How could I top the adventures I had just experienced? Well, I still didn’t know who I was entirely or what I had to offer in a relationship but in any case, I continued to chat with Mr. Italy and France and also maintained my friendship with my chat buddy the 19-year-old younger man and American, Jon.

I did some casual dating here and there and had some adventures with all sorts of different men; A Karate instructor, a cello player, a pilot and even a lawyer. Each time I learned one new lesson from each man and I got closer to understanding a little about myself and how I was in relationships. I didn’t sleep with any of them but I did have one exclusive FWB (friends with benefits). That, lasted for a while but we mutually ended if after a few months because things got “weird” between us. We had been friends since elementary school but as soon as we got sex involved, it all went awry.

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 There was also something “dirty” about him being only 19. Almost 6 years older than him, I felt naughty, I felt bad. What a dirty old pervert!!! I didn’t really know what I was getting myself into, he was “just a baby” in my eyes and it was innocent to just flirt with him on the phone but somehow…I started to develop real feelings for this “baby.”

We exchanged photos, talked on the phone and talked online almost every single day for months and months! I watched him on webcam and we spent countless nights on the phone laughing.  Finally, came the day when it was decided he would come to Canada to visit. I wasn’t sure what to expect but when he arrived there was quite a bit of “uncomfortableness” between us. We had practically had an entire relationship over the phone and the computer but now he looked so young to me, I felt guilty and like a total dirty old woman. 

 Just before Jon arrived I had spent an evening with my  ex boyfriend Ewan though. Yes Ewan, the first man I truly gave myself to and whom I thought I was still madly in love with. Once again, I “gave” myself to him and had a beautiful night of lovemaking.  It was a moment of weakness he said and left without any mention of him still loving me or us ever getting back together. I could have kicked myself for letting that happen.  Of course, this only confused me more and fucked me up beyond belief but I tried to console myself by knowing that soon this American young’un would be arriving to chase the blues away.

So here I was with this American visitor now that I had no idea what do with and a he was a Virgin no less! Feeling rejected by Ewan and confused about my emotions around him, I thought about my whirlwind romances in Europe and my “friends with benefits” relationship with my friend from elementary school. I was in absolutely NO shape to get into a relationship so naturally; I walked right into the young, strong arms of Mr. US Air Force.

Yup, I deflowered the young’un. I took his Virginity and I’m sure he loved every second of it. There was plenty of exciting sex over the next two weeks and the high of being with a new lover overtook us both. It was fun to lie around in bed with a new man. He said the most powerful things to me and made me feel in love. I felt beautiful again, I felt desired.  How exciting it was to be with a younger man…how exciting it must have been for him to be with an older woman!

The challenge came however when he announced his feelings of love for ME. We had a magnificent two weeks together while he visited but now that he had gone back to the US and I never got to see him so I didn’t have those “lovey dovey” feelings anymore and the “high” was gone. LOVE? He LOVED me? He told me how he had fallen deeply in love with me and wanted to marry me. I was shocked but at the same time happy in a weird kinda way just because I felt I had finally “won” the love of another man. Maybe I wasn’t so unlovable; maybe I could love another man again. Perhaps Jon was the key to me getting over Ewan once and for all.

We continued our long distance relationship over the phone and the Internet and the next time he visited he arrived with a ring. Not an engagement ring but rather his old school ring that he wanted me to have to remember him by until he could buy me a “proper” ring. I accepted his ring with both happiness and apprehension at the same time.  He told me what it would be like to be married to a man in “the force”.  It actually seemed kind of exciting. He showed me the sexy uniform he would wear for the wedding if I decided to marry him and I thought about how great he would look in it. A man in uniform isn’t that what all women loved????

Jon really knew how to take care of me. He was smart, loving, kind and very generous. He was an attentive lover and treated me like a queen. Whenever he came down to visit, he cooked, cleaned and was great with my family. Jon really was a good catch and I think it was around that time I finally realized that I was never going to get back together with Ewan. Everyone else really seemed to like Jon. There was no reason for me to still be hung up on my ex; it was time to move on indefinitely. But how? I finally thought to myself that maybe leaving Canada and moving to the US with my American cutie was exactly what I needed. I was tired of pining over Ewan and so…I finally did it and agreed to marry Jon.

Jon was thrilled and excited and I even received a call from his mother congratulating us. I started looking at wedding gowns and making plans half-heartedly. I thought about Ewan a lot; I thought about the men in Europe and sometimes I cried at night at what my future was going to be like. I cried because I would be leaving home. I cried because I wasn’t in love with my future husband and I cried because I was running away from my feelings for my ex boyfriend. I was a wreck. How could I possibly marry a man while still having feelings for another? I did love Jon.  I cared about him, I knew he was a good catch and we did have good times together but… was that going to be enough?

In the end, it wasn’t enough and obviously I didn’t marry Jon. I broke it off with him and cried myself to sleep for many nights. He insisted I keep his old school ring and thankfully we both recovered and have maintained contact throughout the years. He was the first man I was ever engaged to and it lasted less than a year. I felt like a failure and cruel bitch for breaking a good man’s heart. What stings most? He always has and always will be willing to talk to me and listen to me whenever we’ve caught each other online. He’ll make a great husband one day, only not to me, some other lucky lady.

LESSON LEARNED: “A good catch” doesn’t necessarily mean a good catch for me. A “rebound” guy is not meant to be your future husband, he is meant to be just that, a “rebound” guy and there is nothing wrong with that. Don’t be a fool and think you can use one guy to get over another, yes it will work but it won’t be the meaningful long-term relationship or marriage you desire. Whenever you first get together with a guy it will be exciting. You might even SWEAR that he is THE ONE and dream of marrying him but hold on there sista, is it the marriage that you are dreaming of? Or is it just the idea of being a bride? Do you want to get into a relationship just to get over a broken heart?  Are you looking to marry this guy to run away from something? Marriage is a huge commitment that should not be taken lightly so be clear!   Oh and I know you won’t listen to me but please, please try to NOT have sex with your exes.

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